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How to get over a bad day

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Here’s a quick break from the blog schedule for this week because I thought sharing these tips is important. This thought came because yesterday I had a pretty bad day.

If you’re a woman and you go through PMS every month, I’m sure you will understand what I’m talking about.

Yes! I had a pretty bad day yesterday. *sigh

I woke up feeling well and ready to have a productive day, I got dressed, had breakfast, read for about 40 minutes and sat at the computer to add my new collection to the Buffet Event at the shop.

All good so far.

Then, I started feeling a bit distracted… I didn’t want to do anything from my to-do list.

*Weird feeling* 

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Not only did I feel resistance to doing the things on my list, but I also had those bad thoughts of self-doubt. Can you relate to any of these thoughts during PMS?… or any other bad day?

* You have to do this, you should to do that…
* Why can’t you just keep doing it? You were feeling good about it before, what changed?
* Why is everything so complicated for you? Everyone else has it all figured out.
* Why can’t you just keep your promises?
* Why did you start it anyway?
* Are you sure you wanna keep doing it?
* Who do you think you are to be doing it?

How can one make any progress having these voices in her head all along the way?

In the past, I used to push and push harder to keep crossing things off of my to-do list and have a usual work day. The outcome was I had most things done or sometimes half done. That’s good for a bad day, huh?

But as the years went by and I became more mindful and intentional about my life, I learned that it’s not always good. Here’s why:

Creating the life you truly wanna live is about
living the life you truly wanna live every day.

I’m always talking about creating the life I truly wanna live. What does that mean? It means that all my decisions now are with the aim of creating the reality I think is beautiful and happy for me with the things and people I love to hang out with.

But first, the most important thing to be aware of about creating is that it happens now, at this very moment. So, I’m creating the reality I aim for while I enjoy the whole process every single day.

That’s what I thought was worth sharing with you:

While having half or most of my to-do list crossed off is good, the feeling of frustration at the end of the day was not compatible. As human beings, our goal in everything we do is cultivating feelings of worthiness, pleasure, and happiness and/or any other positive feelings you consider important. It all boils down to us always wanting to feel good.

Reflect on how your to-do list makes you feel

Crossing off items on the to-do list will only make us feel good at the end of the day when the things on our list are meaningful for us. Tasks for duty’s sake don’t make us feel good. They make us feel nothing if not frustrated. I know I feel totally frustrated, but it has to do with my core values and I’ll be writing about it soon because I just love the subject. The tasks that provide us that feeling of accomplishment are the meaningful ones.

OVER TO YOU: If you’ve never looked at your to-do list with this perspective in mind, I challenge you to take a 5-minute break and reflect about the items you have in your list and also your goals. Ask these questions to each task/goal:

  • Is it valuable?
  • Do I feel like doing it?
  • Why is it important for me?

P.S.: Remember to be honest with yourself. If you don’t feel like doing something, it probably is not as important as you think it is. Sometimes we take someone’s else important stuff as ours, that way we don’t live based on our own values.

Great warning here! When we live up to other people’s expectations for a long period, our life becomes meaningless and we fall into depression.

Be aware of what you resist always persists

An important lesson I learned in the self-growth path I’m walking is that every feeling we resist persists. A couple of years ago, when I was depressed, I used to try to different things: cheering me up or distracting me watching movies and series. Both are ineffective because they were about me resisting to feel what I was feeling. The feeling persisted for days and nothing seemed to get me back in a good mood. It was hard.

Find the reasons underneath the self-doubt and negative feelings

I don’t believe I’m facing depression anymore because most of my days are positive and productive and I’ve been living intentionally every day. It doesn’t mean I don’t face bad days. Yes, I do. What is different now is the way I react. I don’t resist anymore. I take some time off to feel what I am feeling and reflect about the reasons I’m having those feelings. Sometimes I journal, sometimes I draw intuitively while listening to mantras so I can express my feelings through art, sometimes I meditate… these work very well for me.

Any way you choose to reflect and reveal the real reasons for the negative feelings about yourself, it is important to find a quiet place and calm your mind before starting. Breathing deeply helps to calm down and concentrate.

 Take time off to do what makes you happy

Yesterday, instead of pushing me to do as many tasks as I could. I took a quick look at my daily schedule and did two that I knew were priorities I couldn’t just pretend they didn’t exist. After that, I gave myself permission to do whatever I felt like to.

This time, I didn’t need to reflect about what I was feeling because I know these are usual feelings of PMS and I just need to go through the day and I’ll be ok. So, instead of journaling or reflecting I chose something that would make me feel really good.

I drew a lot! I love drawing and I know I need to practice to become the artist I wanna become. However, I don’t give myself much time to draw because I have a pretty busy schedule. I usually draw to illustrate posts or to add to my vision board, but I almost never draw for my pleasure only.

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Accept that it is not a great day… and that’s ok

I’m addicted to making progress, but I learned to accept that some days are not as good as others while some are extraordinary. This is the Universe balance, we would never identify a day as extraordinary if we never experienced a bad day.

Remember this is only ONE day in a life-time period. At the end, it will have no impact on the big picture of your living.

Be patient and persistent

Today is a new day. I woke up feeling much more positive than I was yesterday. I won’t lie and say I’m feeling energized and vibrant. I’m not. But I’m feeling much better and I’ll focus on the priorities and things that I feel more motivated to do because I know that if I’m patient and keep doing what makes me feel better everything will get back on track in a few days and the negative thoughts will be in the past and won’t matter anymore.

And here you are. I hope you find it useful and it can help you create more intention and peace in your living.

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How to declutter your mind and open space for clarity

I’ve been talking about my word of the year lately. It’s the beginning of a new year, that means it’s a good time to choose a word to guide you.

>> If you want to choose a word and need help, I’m happy to offer you a quick guide to choosing your word of the year. Sign up for my newsletter to get it.

For me, choosing the word of the year is more about allowing the divine to connect with you and bring what you need through your intuition than trying to take control of your life. Most of the times, trying to take control leads us to stress and overwhelm, we need to find the balance between taking action and trusting the divine.

Why am I saying all this?

The quick guide I created is a tool to be used, but if your mind is cluttered you may face uncertainty or dissatisfaction with the outcome of the exercise. So, here’s a ritual you can use to declutter your mind and open space for clarity.

P.S. You can use this same ritual in other situations that you need clarity and also practice listening to your intuition.

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STEP 1 | OPEN SPACE

Choose a place that is special for you, a place that makes you feel comfortable and cozy. It might be your craft room, workstation, office, bedroom… Take a look around, if something is bothering you, it’s time to declutter and clean. You don’t need to have a huge Spring Cleaning moment, but try to hide or remove from sight the things that annoy you and make the place the most comfortable it can be now.

STEP 2 | WAKE UP ALL YOUR SENSES

Add color to your special place – especially with flowers and plants (nature is always inspiring), you can also add colored sticky notes or ribbons, anything that makes you feel happy.

Place perfumed candles or pour home perfume around the room.

Play relaxing music that makes you feel calm and peaceful.

Prepare or order your favorite drink.

Find a comfortable spot in the room to sit, I recommend you use soft cushions or pillows to make it super comfortable.

STEP 3 | SET QUIET ME TIME

Give yourself the gift of quiet time. If you don’t live alone, tell your family or roommates that you need 30 minutes of quiet time. They shouldn’t call you, knock on the door or anything else that might distract you.

YOU’RE ALMOST READY…

Before you start following the guide, get comfortable… take a deep breath or two, pay attention to the room, smell the perfume, listen to the music, get yourself in a relaxed pace to connect with your intuition. If you notice worries or thoughts about things you need to get done or that you can’t forget, take a minute and write everything down on a notepad so you can take them off of your mind and check in later. That way, you’re gonna empty your mind and be ready for the exercise.

Good luck!

oh… and remember to share what is your word of the year in the comments.

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New Year for a Better Me: 7 days of Review | Day Two

Lisa Jacobs hosts a seven-day review series* on Marketing Creativity. This review process is derived from her book – Your Best Year 2017 – which I bought as soon as she launched after using the previous edition which I loved. The 2017 edition is even better than the previous one and I truly recommend using it if you are running a creative business online.

I responded to the prompts in a self-paced way back in November. I’m glad Lisa is careful enough to add her own responses as examples in the book, it helped a lot. As I decided to share my goals for this year here on the blog, instead of writing a post with my resolutions I thought it would be a good idea to share my whole review with you, following Lisa’s series.

As I said before, it’s a seven-day review and I am writing seven posts, however they won’t be posted daily, I am posting them as soon as I write. If you haven’t set your goals yet, I hope that seeing my answers or visiting Lisa’s blog and seeing her answers might help you set your goals.

Read Day One Review here.

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Now, let’s jump in the prompts of Day 2. This time, we are gonna reflect on the challenges and what didn’t work in 2016. Here are the 10 questions and my answers.

What was time wasted this year?

  • when I worried about things that didn’t even happen (and I’m not sure will ever happen) or overthink what I’d like to start doing
  • when I stress over silly things my husband and daughter do/say

What was money wasted this year?

  • eating out and deliveries – they are unhealthy, expensive and don’t bring me that much pleasure. I’d rather use this money to travel or buy things that will make me happy.

What was the biggest challenge you faced this year?

  • using my energy the best way to make things happen instead of overthinking and keeping all the active energy inside harming my mental health
  • saving money
  • losing weight and eating healthier – shifting bad habits into health habits
  • Being consistent in rituals that make me feel good

If anything, what would you change about how you handled that challenge?

  • I would stop worrying and overthinking and start doing more
  • I would follow my intuition

Are you ending the year with any unfinished business?

  • Healthy habits
  • Energy Rituals

Are there any outstanding goals you’d like to let go of?

I wouldn’t call it letting go, I’m actually changing directions in my business so my revenue goal is also going to change.

What was your worst setback in 2016?

I didn’t dedicate enough to creating healthy habits. I focused on my emotional health with therapy and rituals and it paid off, so I know I’m on the right path. Besides that, I made some changes to my eating habits, so I’m building it slowly.

Which bad habits or unhealthy patterns did you engage in that you’d like to give up once and for all?

  • drinking coke
  • sedentary lifestyle
  • smoking sporadically
  • not knowing how to deal with fear, stress and anxiety

What or whom held you back this year? Did anything make you shrink into yourself or feel defensive about your dreams?

My answers to this question were all moved to the next question because I can’t recall anybody or anything that held me back, all that held me back were my own fears and behaviors.

How did you hold yourself back this year? Which beliefs | ideas | excuses stopped you from pushing forward?

I didn’t believe my in strengths and talents and that makes me not start great projects I have in mind. I was too afraid of failure and criticism, my inner critic was too strong. It made me focus on details and not on the important stuff. Another thing that held me back was trying to control my family and stressing out about them not doing what I expected them too.

And here’s day two of the review. I’ll be posting day 3 with a new list of prompts + my answers. All this review will lead us to my resolutions for 2017.

*Lisa’s series is called New Year For A New You, however I don’t like the idea of thinking of me as a new person, I’m always looking for becoming a better version of myself, opening up for my core values and truth. That’s why I changed the name for New Year For A Better Me.

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New Year for a Better Me: 7 days of Review | Day One

Lisa Jacobs hosts a seven-day review series* on Marketing Creativity. This review process is derived from her book – Your Best Year 2017 – which I bought as soon as she launched after using the previous edition which I loved. The 2017 edition is even better than the previous one and I truly recommend using it if you are running a creative business online.

I responded to the prompts in a self-paced way back in November. I’m glad Lisa is careful enough to add her own responses as examples in the book, it helped a lot. As I decided to share my goals for this year here on the blog, instead of writing a post with my resolutions I thought it would be a good idea to share my whole review with you, following Lisa’s series.

As I said before, it’s a seven-day review and I will write seven posts, however they won’t be posted daily, I will post them as soon as I write. If you haven’t set your goals yet, I hope that seeing my answers or visiting Lisa’s blog and seeing her answers might help you set your goals.

At the first day, we’re going to review and celebrate all the good stuff that happened in 2016. Here are the 10 questions and my answers.

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What was time very well spent this year?

  • making art with my daughter
  • going out with my family
  • singing
  • having a great time with my girl friends
  • drawing
  • doing the exercises and joining the calls of 100 Rejection Letters
  • date nights
  • therapy sessions

What was money very well spent this year?

  • 100 Rejection Letters
  • holistic therapy sessions for me and for our daughter

What are your favorite memories of 2016?

  • group meetings with my girl friends
  • my birthday at a Budhist Temple
  • taking care of 4 puppies that were abandoned in our front door
  • a day at the water park with my family
  • valentine’s day
  • the change in my relationship with my mother
  • Pizza nights at my parents’

What did you accomplish or complete this year?

  • by October I had already doubled my revenue with JB Studios
  • I overcame my worst fears

Did you make any progress on long-term goals?

This one was very hard to answer because I didn’t have any long-term goals, I didn’t have clarity about what I wanted that’s why it is difficult to measure if I made progress. However, I see progress in so many areas of my life and I feel ready to set long-term goals now.

What felt successful about the year, as a whole?

I usually celebrate every little accomplishment, so instead of making a huge list I decided to mention one thing that influences all the others – self-growth. Hubby and I’ve been learning a lot and making changes in all areas of our lives, step by step.

Of course, I could not leave the growth of my creative business aside. After growing revenue 387% in 2015, I was able to grow 191% in 2016 and grew my audience a lot, too.

Did you overcome any obstacles or mental blocks this year?
Certainly. I overcame my worst fears. I finally allowed myself to say I’m an artist, started to like my drawings, tried new techniques and learned how to say no when something is not a good fit for me personally or in my business.

What did you learn about yourself after all that happened in 2016?
I think the most important was to discover one of my core values: freedom. I also see how important it is to know my core values, they may guide my decision-making better.

Who nurtured or supported you most this year?
My husband, my daughter, my parents, two digiscrapper designers who are also great friends – we are like a mastermind group, my creative team, Ginger and all her staff, my best friend and some other people on different occasions during the year. I have written more details in my journal. I won’t share them online.

Who did you enjoy nurturing and supporting?
My family, the people I collaborate with in my business, my subscribers and most of the people who also nurtured me.

And here’s day one of the review. I’ll be posting day 2 with a new list of prompts + my answers. All this review will lead us to my resolutions for 2017.

*Lisa’s series is called New Year For A New You, however I don’t like the idea of thinking of me as a new person, I’m always looking for becoming a better version of myself, opening up for my core values and truth. That’s why I changed the name for New Year For A Better Me.

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